I know your birthday was a train wreck. I am so, so sorry that you had to bury your own mother on a day that should have been a celebration for you. Next year? Next year we are SO gonna party for your 64th!!!
You killed a small part of me today when you said, "I saw my mom for the first time on my birthday... and I saw her for the last time on my birthday, too. Talk about full circle..." Gah! I wish I could make all this easier for you. It's simple enough to put aside my pain to fix yours. Unfortunately, I know nothing I say or do is going to make it any better.
I love you Mom. Happy Birthday.